"Imma Master The Unhook... Again"

I just have a way of weaving J.Cole's name into every conversation. I'm on my stan-game proper. Don't hate. So earlier today I was bumping Light Skinned Jermaine's Lights Please (Dude's favourite joint off the The Warm Up Mixtape) and these lines really stuck out for me:

"So I tried to show her/About the world and about just who we really are/And where we’ve come and how we still have to go really far/Like baby look at how we live broke on the boulevard/But all she ever want me to do is unhook her bra/Then all I really want is for her to go down low/Before you know it, she wet enough to get drowned slow/And all that deep shit I was previously down for/Replaced by freak shit I am currently down for."

And so I lamented that this was "a sad case of affairs" that led to this brief discussion:

Dude: Why "sad case of affairs"?
The Ordinary Girl: Because he's trying to school her and tell her who they were as a people and why they have much further to go and she's not trying to hear that. Not tryna stretch her mind. She's good to go if you master how to unhook.
It's sad because I don't think the girl he describes is stooooopid. I think there is no confidence in herself or in her people. She deals with the here and now. Don't tell her about the future or what she can become, all she has is what she is. Now. And while he knows better, what can he do. For real, what can he do because he is human and he needs the pleasure? Say no? GTFOH!
Dude: Imma master the unhook....again. Just playing.
The Ordinary Girl: You don't agree?
Dude: I agree. But he is to blame too. She is human too, why would she say no to pleasure. I agree with you. I am just stating that she is not alone in that he is also on some here and now tip.

So... sad case of affairs we're all in - yes? And J. Cole puts the mirror right in front of all young Black people. Well ok. The live version is dope too:


- T.O.G